Friday, July 10, 2015

James's Indifference; Lois's Pain

Are you in love with your lady (fiancee) and you have been excited loving her but all of a sudden your love and excitement to see her, chat with her or call her died? Well you are not alone. Or are you a lady and your man is not as interested again, well don't give up. Just read this.

James (not real name) will be 30 in a couple of months. He works in the bank and he is in a loving relationship with Lois (nrm) who is a pharmacist working in another town. 
Both of them are Christians and are committed to serving God. 
They have been courting for 2 years and have kept their chastity with each other.

However, in recent times Lois discovers that James's attention for her have reduced. His twice-a-day calls have reduced to once in three days. He used to initiate a chat with her on bbm but now she has to ping him before he talks.
Their communication became more like a chore rather than a pleasurable exchange of information between lovers.
This continued for sometime and was of a great concern to Lois.
Lois had on several occasions tried to solve this sudden lost of interest and indifference she observed with her love but all to no avail.  In fact, her attempts have turned to arguments rather than proffering a solution.

James on the other hand knew his attitude to Lois had changed dramatically from good to worse and was getting worse daily. His feelings for his fiancee was not what he used to have when they started.
But sadly enough, he could not explain why it was so.  He just hoped things would be okay by itself.

Mainwhile their prayer and bible study life has also been negatively imparted partly due to their inability to see frequently

One day, Lois decided to engage James in an unusual chat to know what exactly was going on in James's life and thought pattern. She had to remind James of their promise to each other to always communicate issues and not to hold back anything.
To their surprise, the discuss became so hot as James began to fire words at Lois about her weaknesses, lack of good judgement, incompetence among other things.
Lois almost cried her heart out hearing those words of attack from James her fiance.  The question on her mind was why did James not bring up the issue for a talk all the while his attitude changed.

Lois felt really bad.  She felt worthless and useless to her fiance and in a relationship that is 2 years old with marriage in view.

However, the incident imparted so much on James too that he had to come back to himself and ask how on earth he could speak so roughly to his cherished fiancee.  He asked himself what has really gone wrong.
He had a prick in his heart. God told him of how important Lois was to his life and purpose,
And should in case Lois leave, he would have to pay for it.
The fear of such warning gripped his heart that he had to repent of his acts and changed his attitude to Lois,
James decided to leave his busy schedules to visit Lois in her town where she works. He had to apologise for what happened over the chat and promised to change for the better.

Lois was so happy about this that she renewed her commitment to James to help me achieve all that God has called him to do.
And their relationship continued happily for another 5 months after which they got wedded.

James constantly studies the word of God to renew his mind so it does not harbour wrong thoughts against his wife. Lois also studies the word so she can continue to respect James for who he is.

That is the end of the story.

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