Tribute to my wife-sis Gloria Bamiloye.
Prov. 31:10-12, 23,28,30 NKJV.
(10) Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
(11) The heart of husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.
(12) She does him good and not bad all the days of her life.
(23) Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.
(28) Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also and he praises her.
(30) Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but the woman who fears
the LORD she shall be praised.
February 4th 2015 was my wife's 51st birthday. And this year would Be the 27th year of our marriage. We got married in 1988 when I was 28 and my wife was 24.
Since then, we have travelled through thick and thin together.
We have both climbed mountains and descended into valleys. We have faced adverse physical and spiritual situations together.
Daunting challenges had come our way in life and ministry, some still linger. However, we have both confronted them with courage.
On my wife 51st birthday, she got phone calls, congratulatory messages, facebook wishes all through the day.
Our two sons presented her with a digital painting of her early years on film set. And I bought her a teddy bear. Those calls and messages made us feel as if a crowd had come to her birthday party. Thanks to all our well-wishers.
My wife is special. Our journey from the beginning shows it. When I see all kinds of single and mature sisters today, I can't but thank
God for giving me a woman that is simple and humble.
I am writing this again so my single sisters might learn some things.
I graduated in 1983 and served. I had be organising dramas while I was on campus. Even while I was serving I was actively writing drama scripts for my campus fellowship. Sometimes I had to travel from plateau state, my state of deployment back to the campus to organise dramas. After completing my service in 1984, I was fully involved in campus drama evangelism with the fellowship drama group, travelling to other campuses and churches for drama presentations.
Sister Gloria was among the new members that joined the group.
In 1985, I proposed to her and she told me she would pray about it.
On August 4, 1985, she came to me and said 'yes' to my proposal. So our journey began. Now the real issue was that I had nothing physical
or material that any lady could be proud of. I had a single room with one bed, one table and a chair. A standing hanger where I hanged a few
fading shirts and only one suit which I used to iron from time to time and red tie for special occasions. In the same room was my stove and a
rugged fan which had lost its foot and the head tie to face the bed.
And of course, a precious collection, my books in the shelf serving as a library.
That was the things she saw when she first visited me. As soon as she entered she was attracted to my books. Books by famous authors like Oral Robert, Osward j. Smith etc. She wanted to grow spiritually.
Although I had nothing physically but she knew I had a great vision and she embraced it wholeheartedly.
At a time her family wanted to know about my job so as to know if I was capable of marrying her. But she had to defend me. She told them I was into a drama ministry and that there was a great future ahead.
They were furious with her though. How could she marry a man with no job, possessions or even an enviable future.
However, God took control and touched their hearts. We got married in 1988.
Our lives and ministry have been wonderful ever since.
Now to my sisters, a lot is missing it today. They are listening to teachings that say a lady should not get married to a man who is not materially capable of being a husband. Also that a lady should check the financial statement of the young man proposing to them first. If the account is lean, then they should not bother to consider it.
A sis who couldn't see how her fiancee could get a jeep one month before wedding or secure a contract with an oil company or even get a trendy duplex in Lekki came to a conclusion the she and her fiancee were not compatible. However, if the young man had told her how is gonna get all these, even if he was lying, she would have seen the two of them compatible.
We are now in the generation when our young sisters believe a man by what they see physically or how he sweetly could run his mouth by saying big and boastful plans and not by and not by what they spiritually percieve of him.
This is a season where it is by how you package yourself that many sisters will take you, even if the shirts and shoes were borrowed.
MANY, NOT ALL. MANY OF OUR. SISTERS LOVE TO BELIEVE IN LIES TODAY.
Some sisters' choice would base on where the man is working! Bank, oil and gas, real estate, insurance or constructions?
A sister ought to commit marriage proposal into the hand of the Lord.
I THINK THIS IS THE ACTUAL SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM: MANY SiSTERS CAN'T
WAIT BEFORE THE LORD TO KNOW THE MIND OF GOD CONCERNING WHO TO MARRY
AGAIN.
MANY SISTERS ARE GUIDED INTO MAKING THEIR MARITAL CHOICES BASED ON
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, MATERIAL, OR FINANCIAL POSSESSION OF THE MAN, AND
NOT ON THE LEADING OF THE CONVICTION OF THE LORD THEIR GOD.
If sis Gloria were to consider my physical, material and financial possesions, when I proposed to her, I would have been out-rightly disqualified, because I had nothing but the burning visions to evangelize the world through the drama ministry.
ONLY GOD KNOWS THE FUTURE. The man who has nothing now may be on his to the top soon.
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