Self Esteem

      

The Merriam Webster dictionary defines self esteem as a confidence and satisfaction in oneself. Sense of personal worth and ability that is fundamental to an individual's identity.

In the last post, I emphasized why courtship should be chosen rather than dating. The former is willing to take responsibilities and it has a focus while the latter is purposeless and at the end brings pain and heart ache to the parties involved.

In this post, I want to link success in relationship to the value each party places on themselves.

In other words, what each person thinks he/she worth.

In case you have forgotten, let me quickly remind you.

You are special

You are one in a lifetime

Uniquely configured to do great things

Loved by the Creator of all things


Fearfully and wonderfully made

A king and a priest with the power to reign

Everybody waits for your manifestation

You can do things well

There is so much improvement you can bring to people's lives both locally and internationally

Let me ask you a question: What do you think of yourself?

Is it the thought of failure or the thought of being not beautiful enough?

Is it the thought of problems or the thought of a problem solving?

Is it the thought of lack or the thoughts of abundance?

How you think of yourself really matters.

When you go into a relationship with the lack of self esteem, it usually posses some problems. The conclusion that is usually made is that the relationship cannot work. When in the really sense it is the individuals with poor self esteem that didn't make it work.

There is no way a person can be satisfied with the other partner when he or she is not even satisfied with him/herself.

A lady who does not know her worth would think sleeping to keep a man is the best option she has. When in the actual sense, she is the wife somebody is looking for to love, cherish and nurture.

A young man who does not know his worth would not offer his partner wisdom, leadership or purpose rather he would only want to derive pleasure from his partner.


Whether you are a fiance or fiancee or intending to be one later, don't forget you have something unique in you which your relationship is supposed to bring out.


Don't lower your worth just to keep someone in your life. Find someone that is willing to give you what you're worth. Thanks for reading. Love you all.