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Never take for granted that special person who has made a commitment to be with you for life when they could have chosen to be with somebody else.

The Day I First Met My Wife; Wisdom Gained- Inspiration From Pastor Dunamis, KHC.

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Be the right person and the right person will come!

What to Do When Tired of Searching!

    Have you ever heard of somebody introduce himself or herself as this or that and cap to it, says 'single and searching'? Yeah, I know you might have.  Really, so many young people are in this category who really desire to be in relationship but have not found someone.

In fact, some are already tired of being in such state because their expectations to find someone to be in love with is not met. If you are in such state of discouragement, I bring words of encouragement for you.

You might have even lost the confidence of who you are thinking you are not good enough for anybody.

That is not true. Your creator knows you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Don't try to reduce your worth by such thoughts. 

    Regardless of the number of your friends that are getting married or starting a relationship, there is no cause to panic or fret over your circumstance. There is no comparison in the kingdom. Everyone has their appointed time. 

The wisest king that ever lived says, 'to everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven.' So to finding the right partner, there is a season.  Also know that each relationship has a purpose.

    While you wait, you need to continue to build capacity as a husband or wife to be. Seek the face of God and know his purpose for your relationship; who your partner will be and why he is giving you that particular person. You can avoid many relationship problems that are being encountered today when at this time you know the why of the relationship.  When the purpose of something is not known abuse is inevitable.

Don't let peer pressure force you to fall into the wrong hands or go into a relationship that is not the best for you? 

Enjoy this time of waiting. Live your life to please God and not anybody.

Get busy with normal daily assignments and responsibility. Take good care of your body as it has a powerful force of attraction or repulsion depending on how you handle it. 

When he or she eventually appears, you will be seen as serious and purpose-driven. 

Thanks for reading this. See you next time.

      

February Fourteenth

This day is popularly known as Valentine. Well, Valentine day was named after a clergy who had a stand for godly marriage. As you rejoice and share your love with somebody today, remember to do it in such a way that  it will be memorable.  Do something positive and which also pleases God. Bring impact and inspiration to somebody's life.

Valentine lived for something. You should too. The Scripture says that the memory of the just is blessed.  Any time we think about you, your thoughts should produce a good feeling in us and joy to God because you share his Love.

Happy Valentine. Enjoy the moment!

3 Things Communication Will Do For Your Relationship

It is often said that communication is the life-giving blood of any relationship. This is particularly true in love relationships. Communication is key.  Two people can be in the same relationship and yet see it in two different ways.  What one person sees as important may be seen as unimportant to the other person.  Because individuals have different perspective to the same thing, only through talking about it or sharing the idea does the two people come into agreement.
Never in history of mankind has talking or sharing ideas been made easier and faster like we have it today.
Here are three things about communication I would love to share with you.
1.  Communication will bring your heart closer to him or her more than anything else.  Have you ever noticed that the people you are closer to are the ones you free share things with?  When you break down the barrier of expression of thoughts, feelings and idea with your partner, you sure gonna connect more with him or her. There is no distance in love when hearts are connected.
2.  Communication will bring synergy
Synergy means that two people in a relationship are achieving more than the addition of each person's separate efforts. Each person brings his or her uniqueness to the relationship and when it is well communicated more is achieved.  There are blessings God only give to two people who join force to achieve His purpose that he wont give to individuals that are separate. One shall chase a thousand; two shall chase ten thousand is a well known truth   That is synergy.  It is however the responsibility of the two persons device a plan together on how to achieve it.  God in turn blesses their plans. He brings the multiplier effect on it.
3.  Communication eases life pressure and brings encouragement
Right words at the right time solve quite a number of problems.  One thing that brings significant pressure in life is how to get our needs met.  Needs in relationships are inevitable. Ability to meet needs for as long as possible is a life skill every serious person in relationship ought to acquire. The need for reassurance of love is a lady's major need which the young man must know how to meet with all purity. You can always help your fiancee ease her pressures by listening to her when she shares issues she is going through.
    On the other hand, A young man needs to always know his efforts and care for his lady are needed and appreciated. A young man wants to know that he is making a significant contribution to his fiancee's life and will always want feedback, this is a point of note for the lady. You can always encourage your fiance to do more for you when you communicate your appreciation to him for his past deeds.
Sometimes when pressures from work, family, neighbours, build up in the mind, sharing it with the person that cares usually bring some comfort even if the causative agent is still there.  There is this kind of encouragement your partner gets when you show him or her your approval or backing. Love not communicated does no good.
Thanks for reading this. I wish your relationship better freedom of expression and sharing. Hoping to see you and your partner achieve God's plan for your lives through better communication.

LOVERS' CORNER: Mike Bamiloye Speaks to Single Ladies(Modified)

LOVERS' CORNER: Mike Bamiloye Speaks to Single Ladies(Modified): My dear single sisters Tribute to my wife-sis Gloria Bamiloye. Prov. 31:10-12, 23,28,30 NKJV. (10) Who can find a virtuous wife...

Mike Bamiloye Speaks to Single Ladies(Modified)

My dear single sisters

Tribute to my wife-sis Gloria Bamiloye.

Prov. 31:10-12, 23,28,30 NKJV.

(10) Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

(11) The heart of husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.

(12) She does him good and not bad all the days of her life.

(23) Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.

(28) Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also and he praises her.

(30) Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but the woman who fears

the LORD she shall be praised.

February 4th 2015 was my wife's 51st birthday. And this year would Be the 27th year of our marriage. We got married in 1988 when I was 28 and my wife was 24.

Since then, we have travelled through thick and thin together.

We have both climbed mountains and descended into valleys. We have faced adverse physical and spiritual situations together.

Daunting challenges had come our way in life and ministry, some still linger. However, we have both confronted them with courage.

On my wife 51st birthday, she got phone calls, congratulatory messages, facebook wishes all through the day.

Our two sons presented her with a digital painting of her early years on film set. And I bought her a teddy bear. Those calls and messages made us feel as if a crowd had come to her birthday party. Thanks to all our well-wishers.

My wife is special. Our journey from the beginning shows it.  When I see all kinds of single and mature sisters today, I can't but thank

God for giving me a woman that is simple and humble.

I am writing this again so my single sisters might learn some things.

I graduated in 1983 and served. I had be organising dramas while I was on campus. Even while I was serving I was actively writing drama scripts for my campus fellowship. Sometimes I had to travel from plateau state, my state of deployment back to the campus to organise dramas. After completing my service in 1984, I was fully involved in campus drama evangelism with the fellowship drama group, travelling to other campuses and churches for drama presentations.

Sister Gloria was among the new members that joined the group.

In 1985, I proposed to her and she told me she would pray about it.

On August 4, 1985, she came to me and said 'yes' to my proposal.  So our journey began.  Now the real issue was that I had nothing physical

or material that any lady could be proud of. I had a single room with one bed, one table and a chair. A standing hanger where I hanged a few

fading shirts and only one suit which I used to iron from time to time and red tie for special occasions. In the same room was my stove and a

rugged fan which had lost its foot and the head tie to face the bed.

And of course, a precious collection, my books in the shelf serving as a library.

That was the things she saw when she first visited me. As soon as she entered she was attracted to my books. Books by famous authors like Oral Robert, Osward j. Smith etc. She wanted to grow spiritually.

Although I had nothing physically but she knew I had a great vision and she embraced it wholeheartedly.

At a time her family wanted to know about my job so as to know if I was capable of marrying her. But she had to defend me. She told them I was into a drama ministry and that there was a great future ahead.

They were furious with her though. How could she marry a man with no job, possessions or even an enviable future.

However, God took control and touched their hearts. We got married in 1988.

Our lives and ministry have been wonderful ever since.

Now to my sisters, a lot is missing it today. They are listening to teachings that say a lady should not get married to a man who is not materially capable of being a husband. Also that a lady should check the financial statement of the young man proposing to them first. If the account is lean, then they should not bother to consider it.

A sis who couldn't see how her fiancee could get a jeep one month before wedding or secure a contract with an oil company or even get a trendy duplex in Lekki came to a conclusion the she and her fiancee were not compatible. However, if the young man had told her how is gonna get all these, even if he was lying, she would have seen the two of them compatible.

We are now in the generation when our young sisters believe a man by what they see physically or how he sweetly could run his mouth by saying big and boastful plans and not by and not by what they spiritually percieve of him.

This is a season where it is by how you package yourself that many sisters will take you, even if the shirts and shoes  were borrowed.

MANY, NOT ALL. MANY OF OUR. SISTERS LOVE TO BELIEVE IN LIES TODAY.

Some sisters' choice would base on where the man is working! Bank, oil and gas, real estate, insurance or constructions?

A sister ought to commit marriage proposal into the hand of the Lord.

I THINK THIS IS THE ACTUAL SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM: MANY SiSTERS CAN'T

WAIT BEFORE THE LORD TO KNOW THE MIND OF GOD CONCERNING WHO TO MARRY

AGAIN.

MANY SISTERS ARE GUIDED INTO MAKING THEIR MARITAL CHOICES BASED ON

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, MATERIAL, OR FINANCIAL POSSESSION OF THE MAN, AND

NOT ON THE LEADING OF THE CONVICTION OF THE LORD THEIR GOD.

If sis Gloria were to consider my physical, material and financial possesions, when I proposed to her, I would have been out-rightly disqualified, because I had nothing but the burning visions to evangelize the world through the drama ministry.

ONLY GOD KNOWS THE FUTURE. The man who has nothing now may be on his to the top soon.

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Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you';
 Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'  Erich Fromm