Greater love hath no man than this that a man should lay down his life for his friends...Jesus, mankind redeemer.
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
How to Handle Disagreements
A Disagreement is inevitable between two friends. It only shows that two people are different because they have different personality and perceptions.
Disagreements usually happen when both parties see the same thing in a different way. Most times those views are usually complimentary to each other and not opposing.
For example, one party may love to have 5 kids while the other may only want to have 2 kids.
Each of them is right in his or her perception of the right number of kids. However they need to reach and agreement on the number of kids.
While both partners try to explain why his or her perception or stand is right, disagreement may ensue.
It will take a conscious effort and commitment to reach an agreement.
In another scenario, as the presidential election draws near, it is not impossible that each partner has his or her own favorite candidate. So when each starts to convince the other that his or her opinion of the best candidate it is often an invitation to disagreement.
When people disagree it is because the subject matter is important to both of them.
Firstly, both parties need to see the matter from the other person's view. Everybody wants to be understood
including your partner, the person you are in disagreement with.
Secondly, if the disagreement occurs, each party can give it time to cool down rather than trying to win the argument. Winning the argument would not fetch the winner a price, it would only create bitterness and friction.
As much as possible lovers need to avoid arguments. You can disagree and still be agreeable. Sometimes it is okay to engage in some intellectual exercise especially on issues that are important. But this should not bring emotional stress to it.
There is nothing as good as when partners make a decision that whenever they disagree on any issue it should cause friction. Making a choice to overlook disagreement and agree before it ever happens is the best.
God's grace is sufficient to do it. Being agreeable is a choice. Love is a choice. Choose to resolve your disagreements today and be agreeable.
Till next time, enjoy in the lover's corner.
Disagreements usually happen when both parties see the same thing in a different way. Most times those views are usually complimentary to each other and not opposing.
For example, one party may love to have 5 kids while the other may only want to have 2 kids.
Each of them is right in his or her perception of the right number of kids. However they need to reach and agreement on the number of kids.
While both partners try to explain why his or her perception or stand is right, disagreement may ensue.
It will take a conscious effort and commitment to reach an agreement.
In another scenario, as the presidential election draws near, it is not impossible that each partner has his or her own favorite candidate. So when each starts to convince the other that his or her opinion of the best candidate it is often an invitation to disagreement.
When people disagree it is because the subject matter is important to both of them.
Firstly, both parties need to see the matter from the other person's view. Everybody wants to be understood
including your partner, the person you are in disagreement with.
Secondly, if the disagreement occurs, each party can give it time to cool down rather than trying to win the argument. Winning the argument would not fetch the winner a price, it would only create bitterness and friction.
As much as possible lovers need to avoid arguments. You can disagree and still be agreeable. Sometimes it is okay to engage in some intellectual exercise especially on issues that are important. But this should not bring emotional stress to it.
There is nothing as good as when partners make a decision that whenever they disagree on any issue it should cause friction. Making a choice to overlook disagreement and agree before it ever happens is the best.
God's grace is sufficient to do it. Being agreeable is a choice. Love is a choice. Choose to resolve your disagreements today and be agreeable.
Till next time, enjoy in the lover's corner.
Monday, March 16, 2015
Money Talk In A Relationship
Quite a while I share ideas on this blog.
Today I will like to share inspiring thoughts on the importance of discussing finance in a love relationship.
While the scriptures do say the love of money is the root of all evils, yet money itself is good. Getting as much as possible without allowing it to replace God in preference is a skill partners need to obtain.
Money can afford lovers the good things that can be purchased: right from their first day to the time they get married through the time of childbearing and upbringing to the time they grow old.
When it comes to handling money people can often be divided into savers and spenders.
Do you know which category and your partner falls?
If you don't know you may need to find out; if you do, then you need to know how to go about it so as not to live life paying one debts or the other. It is good when money is not an issue that cause a rancor in the relationship.
However, I have discovered that in life things do not just work out; somebody somewhere needs to work it. A well-budgeted spending and good cash flow does not happen automatically. It must be planned and executed.
Partners need not shy away from talking about how money comes in and goes out. Tension begins to mount up when everybody knows that finances are not okay and yet nobody talks about it.
If your partner is a spender and often cares less about the financial position of the relationship, he or she is still lovely just like when you first met.
What is required of you is the wisdom to make him or her see how things can be done better and in such a way that will benefit both parties.
On the other hand, if your partner complains about your spending habit, try and see it from his or her point of view. Don't turn it into an argument or a quarrel. Apply maturity.
Normally it is good for the saver partner to handle the money. Whether it is the man or the woman. It doesn't matter ass long as money is well-managed.
When both partners have financial knowledge it is usually the best. Financial knowledge or personal finance is not meant only for Chattered accountants or bankers. Everyone should be financially literate.
I hope I have passed across something of importance. Feel free to make your comments.
Thanks.
Thursday, March 5, 2015
Love is Responsibility
Love is of God
Contrary to what some might think love is. Love is not an emotion or a feeling that is subject to circumstances.
It is much more than that. Love is a deliberate action of kindness to others regardless of whether there will be a reciprocal from the other party.
Think of the Love Christ had for you and me. When we had not known him or did anything that qualifies us, he died for us. Instead of destruction, he offered us life.
He chose to bear the responsibility for our weaknesses and depravity.
He showed the way for the sheep going astray.
His Love is greater than any love we can ever imagine. It is this same love he wants us to show to one another. Paul, the missionary told us what love is when he was writing to the Corinthian church.
One of the things he says about love is that it does not seek its own. It always has the interest of the other party at heart.
Also Love is kind. Love makes you responsible to the other party. Love cares. love gives.
There is power in Love.
Love someone today with God's kind of Life. Trust him to teach you to love as he wants. And you will never miss it. The more you love, the more you please God.
Till next post, Love like God.
Contrary to what some might think love is. Love is not an emotion or a feeling that is subject to circumstances.
It is much more than that. Love is a deliberate action of kindness to others regardless of whether there will be a reciprocal from the other party.
Think of the Love Christ had for you and me. When we had not known him or did anything that qualifies us, he died for us. Instead of destruction, he offered us life.
He chose to bear the responsibility for our weaknesses and depravity.
He showed the way for the sheep going astray.
His Love is greater than any love we can ever imagine. It is this same love he wants us to show to one another. Paul, the missionary told us what love is when he was writing to the Corinthian church.
One of the things he says about love is that it does not seek its own. It always has the interest of the other party at heart.
Also Love is kind. Love makes you responsible to the other party. Love cares. love gives.
There is power in Love.
Love someone today with God's kind of Life. Trust him to teach you to love as he wants. And you will never miss it. The more you love, the more you please God.
Till next post, Love like God.